Part 1: Is There Hope?
The Affair First Response Guide was written to be the first step in navigating the turbulent waters after infidelity is discovered in a marriage. Part one of this guide is designed to help you make sense of the thoughts and emotions you may be feeling in order to decide what needs to happen next.
Is There Hope?
It could be your worst nightmare to wake up one day and discover the love of your life had or is having an affair. Your spouse having an affair could be something you saw coming. For others it could be a bomb was dropped out of the blue. Regardless of how you found out about the affair, it is PAINFUL. To know your husband or wife was potentially touching, kissing, holding hands with, saying I love you to, or having sex with another person is devastating.
You may obsess over the details of what might have happened and at the same time not want to know any of the details at all. It is possible you do not want to know what happened because knowing the details would make it even more painful. Or you could not stop thinking about what he or she did.
It is possible you have spent hours or even days checking phone records, Facebook messages, emails, credit card statements, text messages, etc. to find out what happened. It is common for someone who has just discovered their spouse has been unfaithful to experience a time of shock, disbelief and rage.
To be betrayed in this way is devastating, so devastating you may not know whereto start to pick up the pieces of your marriage or if you should even try. When emotional and physical affairs are combined research shows that 45% of men and 25% of women have engaged in sexual infidelity.
How could this happen?
What if I’m not sure if I want to save my marriage?
You Have Time To Make A Decision
What if my spouse isn’t interested in getting help?
But I don’t have any feelings for my mate, why should I think my feelings would change?
There is Right Way To Heal
Affair Recovery Guide.
A five part series to help you pick up the pieces after an affair.